Friday, November 28, 2014

Collapsing the Duality Within

Each of us harbor these two inner conflicts:

The fear of being controlled or forced.  

No one likes being told what to do, forced into doing something they don't like, don't believe in or made to do something without consent.

The fear of being abandoned or rejected.

No one wants to be left alone in their time of financial need, emotional depression, physical ailment or any low point in their life.

No one wants either of these things in a relationship.  All of us have endured experiencing it.

When threatened, is it "Fight or Flight?"
"Float like a butterfly or sting like a bee?"
Realize that you have more than two choices.

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When we take time to consider these two deep inner fears, we are better equipped to understand the reasoning behind the actions of self and others.  If either of these tender wounds becomes threatened, we retreat into our well-grooved "fight or flight" reactive response patterns.

One who fears being controlled by another may overtly force others, daring another to take it from him; likewise for fear of being controlled, one may flee physically or emotionally.

One who fears abandonment may assert control over a relationship, building co-dependance, coercion and other imbalances; likewise one who is fearful of being abandoned or rejected may never open up to allow himself to receive it, fleeing even the possibility.

Look to yourself and notice if any of your behavior reflects reactions such as these to relationships.  Being mindful of these patterns in others allows us to use empathy and compassion in our interactions, for we understand they come from a wounded place themselves.  Notice where you may be allowing yourself to be controlled or abandoned in your life.  Go within and ask yourself why you are allowing this.  Find which fear is at the root of that which is keeping you from blissful success.  


Becoming aware is the first stage to make significant and lasting changes in life.  

Being mindful when taking action is the second: Be the change you wish to see.

 





Thursday, November 27, 2014

Blond Brownies

Blond Brownies with Walnuts and Chocolate Chips

A family favorite of mine since childhood, these light colored brownies are rich in density.  I love baking these blondies for the holidays.

Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.
Mix dry ingredients separately and set aside; you will add these to the wet ingredients last.

Dry Ingredients
2 cups flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
3/4 teaspoon salt


Wet Ingredients
Melt 2/3 cup butter
Add 2 cups firmly packed brown sugar and mix together.


Add 2 teaspoons vanilla and 2 eggs
Mix well.

Add flour mixture gradually, mixing well.  This will be a sticky batter that will wants to move slowly together a bit like taffy.  You do not need to force this batter- simply guide it and use a scraper to keep it coagulated. 

Place batter into 13x9 inch pan.
Sprinkle top with 5 oz (1/2 package) chocolate chips and 1/3 cup walnuts. 
Bake for 30 minutes. 
Let cool then cut and enjoy!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Humbly Magnificent

It has always been easy for me to see the very best in people.  When I connect with someone, I immediately see their goodness, their skills and feel their passion.  I am a catalyst for bringing that to surface awareness, which is a good part of what makes it fun for me to be in marketing and promotion.  I catch hold of your greatness, I find the reins of what feeds your passion, I encourage and extrapolate, helping to put together the best aspects of who you are and what you represent.

What vexes me as a Seer is when someone cannot see that beautiful potential within themselves.  Sometimes I feel as though I have failed in not successfully showing it to them.  But in all truth, it is only that they do not really wish to see it.

Why are so many people so scared of owning their own greatness?  Is it too daunting?  Are you nervous that more will be expected of you?  That you will have to work harder?  That you will be more accountable?  Do you fear that suddenly your whole life will completely change?

Owning your greatness does not have to be an immediate jump.  It is a recognition, an awareness of that which you already are.  You can take this process as slowly as you would like.  It does not have to suddenly turn your life around.  Baby steps of awareness are as powerful as gigantic leaps of faith, for it is within those baby steps that you can completely change your perspective and thus your entire direction and manner in which you move will shift along with it.


Once you start to recognize just how beautiful, capable and worthy you are, you will also start to see how you are connected and that you are part of a greater design.  You will see that other people are just as worthy and valuable as you are.  This is a very humbling and magnifying perspective to hold- one that is worthy of awe and reverence once you start to really grasp it.

Many people are still sleepily stuck in the "unaware" dreamland of distracted existence.  It is up to us to help remind people to find that goodness of who they are in the kernel of their heart, to recognize and nurture it, to take baby steps of awareness, to start to stand more firmly in their greatness, to not be afraid of the power of their potential, and ultimately to unleash their magnificence.

How do we do this?  We model it in our actions, in our manner and how we move.  We become consciously aware that we are the change we wish to see in the world.  It is a very accountable way of living and not one for the faint of heart, for the world currently fights against its own honor.  This unsustainable way of living is coming to a close and is made all the more poignant as the world starts to rattle and shake from its unstable distribution of power and oppression.

Remember your greatness.  Remember your strength of conviction in what is right and true and good and honorable in your heart.  Remember that when things get difficult, we are to rely on one another, to trust one another, to love one another.  This is how we survive as a species, as a group, as a whole- we help each other, extend to each other, see the good in each other, and actively celebrate the small miracles that are given to us each and every day.  Remember the axiom upon which we have founded ourselves: United we stand, divided we fall